As small children we were helpless to defend ourselves and had to depend on others, the same others who may have hurt or abused us. 


None of this this was our fault. 


The blame lies with the adults in our lives who should have loved, nurtured and protected us but did the opposite, abusing our trust and inflicting pain.


It is possible, with others' help, to end the control that pain from our childhood has over our lives.


We all need and want to be loved. 


But, as we grow up, we may find that the pain of our childhoods affects the way we see ourselves and behave in relationships. 


We may struggle with low self-esteem, may blame ourselves for what happened to us and may even believe ourselves unworthy or incapable of love.



The pain, anger, anxiety or sadness we feel as adults may have begun a long time ago. 


Even before we are born, the lives and behaviours of others around us impact us. 

We are all worthy of love and are all able to love. But if we have been hurt by others we need to understand how to give and receive love without that past pain interfering in our current relationships.



As adults, we may find ourselves being hurt by other adults.


They may put us down, ignore our rights and wishes or violate our boundaries.


Being deliberately hurt by others is never okay.


Counselling can help us identify the sources of our pain and connect with the self we lost because of it. We are then free to seek and share the love and kindness that was denied us by others in the past.


NCPS / BACP / UKCP accredited and DBS checked counsellors

Tel: 07817 563 389 



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